Erin Mac
LLC

I heard something this morning, "Which have been the most valuable lessons, your comfortable times or the difficulties?" I think we all know the answer to that. The most challenging times are when we are catapulted into change, willing or not, because the pain of the outcome exceeds what we are willing to tolerate. A threshold has been crossed. This is when clients come to me, so they can relieve their pain.

What causes the pain?  Resistance.  We have an extraordinary amount of resistance to what is.  It's not our fault.  We are taught to want everyone and everything to go according to our plan and when it doesn't we reserve the right to be upset by them or it.

Also, resistance comes in many forms.  First we have the internal resistance to change from the subconscious mind.  It is only interested in survival (food, water, shelter), so anything not related to that is not to be acknowledged.  You can see why dieting and maintaining an exercise routine can be challenging!

Then, there is your inner circle.  While they may see that you are unhappy and that change would do you good, once you begin to change it forces them to either look at what isn't working in their life or go further into denial.

Lastly, society isn't keen on change, unless it is toward the ideal of buying more things, making more money or having a nicer fill in the blank.  If it doesn't fit into those categories then it is not worth putting attention on.  

Wow, that sounded grim, but it's not because now you know what you are up against.  And, wouldn't you rather know what you're dealing with than be surprised?