In 2000 I had moved to Hawaii to start a new life and begin my journey as a business owner. For those who have decided on this path you know that you can learn an incredible amount certainly about business, but also about yourself. You learn how much resilience you have, hopefully how to balance work and life (this has taken awhile), and how to become solution-oriented.
I moved to Hawaii, from San Francisco in 2000, looking for a simpler life, thinking that it was in a location. I had just had the hardest year of my life battling an anxiety disorder that had me holed up in my home for nearly that whole year. Upon getting a remedy for the anxiety symptoms I thought if I moved somewhere where there were less people, traffic, less everything, that it would be easier. I made a three item list of what I wanted to accomplish by moving to a simpler place and lifestyle: 1) start my own business, 2) work part-time and, 3) smell a plumeria everyday (this is a tropical flower for those that don't know.) What I did, however, was start a business and get my first client within 24 hours, build 2 businesses (a cleaning & property management business and a catering business) immediately, and within a year and a half I had 20+ employees and several multiple six-figure contracts. Needless to say not a simpler life, not part-time and as for the flower smelling, that went by the wayside shortly thereafter as well. I was in the whirlwind of business for 10 years and then, a personal challenge brought me to my knees.
It was the end of the year 2010 when I came to the startling conclusion that everything was about to change. I was living in Hawaii, married with a two-year-old daughter, my successful business of 10 years was surviving the economic downturn, I had amassed 5 homes as successful investment properties with a total value in the multi-millions, drove a nice car, lived in a beautiful home, in a great neighborhood, which was all about to come to an abrupt end. I suddenly found myself as a divorced, single mom of a two-year-old, living in one of the investment properties that was under construction, starting over.
As you can see she's not 2 anymore! We've both grown, quite a bit!
As if this wasn't enough, shortly after settling into my new life I had a defining moment. One morning I received a phone call from a client that was extremely upset by some service she had received. When I got phone calls like this it made me frantic and I would jump into action to solve the problem. This morning was no different, so I told the client I would be right over and I raced to a friend's house to drop off my child and in my rushing I side swiped my car on my friend's husband's truck. I jumped out and assessed the situation and saw that there was not damage to his vehicle and raced off to the client.
When I returned later to pick up my daughter my friend told me the news. She said that when I hit the truck her husband was under it working on it and thought it was going to land on him and kill him. I was devastated. Sometimes when the bottom drops out it is the push that you need to wake up and see that the life you are living is not the one you want, that was the case for me.
Thankfully, at that time, I had a business that had not only made it through the economic downturn, but had thrived and pivoted successfully, so paying the bills was not a problem, but I felt beaten down a bit and began to seek answers to my unhappiness. Like most people, I thought I would set and crush goals and that would make me happy. I set goals in all areas of my life: business, monetary, physical and spiritual/mental. I was unstoppable. I paid down tens of thousands of dollars in debt that my business had in a few months, I grew my business in a way that I was able to maintain the same number of employees, have lower overhead, and a larger bottom line, I started participating in triathlons and after each one would up my game to a larger event, and I began diving into self-development.
I spent the next 8 years studying myself through self-improvement seminars in search of happiness, purpose, fulfillment, abundance, balance, stress management and meaningful relationships. I attended many seminars and later began working for them in various capacities, finally as chief of staff.
I have always been a big proponent of continued education in any capacity, so along with attending workshops I began reading anything I could get my hands on in the pursuit of happiness. I got certifications of completion in workshops pertaining to Leadership, Relationships, Law of Attraction, Success in Life and Business, and Goal Setting and Attaining. It was not until I attended a seminar by Mike Dooley, author of the NY Times best-selling book Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams, that all of this information I had been studying converged.
I immediately went home from Mike Dooley’s workshop and began to follow the step-by-step guide that Mike had laid out and because of it, my entire life changed.
The first thing I noticed was an overwhelming amount of joy in my life on a daily basis, so much so that it would bring me to tears in gratitude throughout the day. Then, the successful business I had owned for nearly 18 years, that had been on the market for almost a year, had two different bidding wars over it and went into escrow immediately. Lastly, I met the love of my life and decided to move to Portland to be with him.
I was then invited to become a Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer, studying under Mike Dooley, to teach what he teaches, and that is just what I did. While getting certified, it became clear to me that it is my life's purpose to help business people find joy, purpose, and meaning in their lives. I have received both Certifications that are offered under the Infinite Possibilities training and have conducted these workshops for two years.
With the encouragement of clientele and workshop attendees I have now begun facilitating workshops on this and all the information I have gathered over the years under the new title of "Impenetrable Joy: A Guide to calm, peace of mind and meaning in your life, NOW!" so that I can help business leaders create the life they have always wanted both in business and personally.
Since 2018 I have been teaching, and building my coaching practice. My first book, "Impenetrable Joy" will be available the last part of 2021. It is a step-by-step guide to the specific process of healing and growth that I take clients on.
Lastly, I believe that it is your birthright to enjoy your life now, not when you have the (fill in the blank). For me that is a life of joy, calm, peace of mind, purpose and meaning. I live that life everyday, predominantly, and I want that for you too.